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Vertigo
10-15-2007, 11:47 AM
So my birthday is coming up, and I usually have a raging Halloween costume party every year with my friend who has the same bday as me. We've been remodeling our kitchen and bathroom. We've been without a bathroom in the house for a month now. Luckily there is an apt above our garage that my friend lives in, so we do have access to a toilet and shower, but still, it's kind of a pain in the ass to put on shoes and go up there every time I have to pee.

Anyway, the kitchen has been ripped apart as well. The cabinets are in place. The countertop is being installed Wednesday. BUT. Only about half of the drywall has been mudded, so it will need more mud, a sanding, another coat of mud, another sanding, and then a top coat of mud. Each step takes a day. THEN we can prime and paint. Our contractor is a slacker, works only a couple hours a day, and then kinda hangs out and drinks beer while we do stuff in the evenings after work. He's our friend, and he's giving us a discount, but I'm starting to feel like you get what you pay for. He's worked hard, don't get me wrong, and he's definitely done a lot. But now I'm stressing because the new cabinets and counter have to be taped off and covered with paper for the mudding and sanding, and we might as well leave them that way so we can paint. But the way the schedule is looking - we probably wouldn't be able to even start painting till the 25th. So the 25th and the 26th (my bday) would be painting, and then the day of the party (the 27th) I'd have to unpack the 20 something boxes that contain our kitchen that are currently stacked in the livingroom, find somewhere to hide the other boxes that have our "office" in them currently, put all the kitchen stuff away, go shopping for snacks and booze, clean the entire house, set up the yard and Halloween decorations, and still have enough energy to dress up and party all night with my friends.

I'm kinda fucking pissed right now. It's a yearly ritual. I pay for the whole thing by myself every year, I spend a fun evening with my friends, we stay up till 4 or 5 around the fire pit, everyone's in costumes, everyone's in good spirits, and whoever sleeps over helps clean up the mess the next day then we usually have breakfast, and it's just nice. Now I'll probably have to go to some crowded stupid bar, which nobody will come out to, because it costs money and they can't bring their underage friends/kids. Friggin lame.

I'm just crossing my fingers that it'll work out, but it's not looking good at the moment.

Mark Carras
10-15-2007, 01:38 PM
My birthday's have always sucked pretty much. They suck a little less because I wrote my family off years ago. My birthday is on Halloween, so having a "Birthday" party was never an option. It was always a Halloween party with gay birthday hats. So anymore I don't even bother trying. Just another day for me.

Vertigo
10-15-2007, 02:57 PM
My birthday's have always sucked pretty much. They suck a little less because I wrote my family off years ago. My birthday is on Halloween, so having a "Birthday" party was never an option. It was always a Halloween party with gay birthday hats. So anymore I don't even bother trying. Just another day for me.

Yeah, I used to have trouble having a good time when it was someone else's responsibility. Once I got this house I was like "I'm HAVING a party" and now it's become kind of a ritual. People are expecting to come over and hang out, and some even look forward to it every year. Your birthday is what you make it. I've made it fun for the most part. If your birthday is near a holiday it's way easier and funner to make that holiday a part of the process rather than try to deny it.

I'm still going to do SOMETHING fun, I'm just venting that my house is still in chaos and I have to change up the plan and it's lame because this shit should be finished by now

Mark Carras
10-15-2007, 03:01 PM
Your birthday is what you make it. I've made it fun for the most part. If your birthday is near a holiday it's way easier and funner to make that holiday a part of the process rather than try to deny it.

Yeah, that is pretty much why I just gave up. It is better to just make it a small private thing between me, my wife, and maybe a close friend or two. That way no one is invited that doesn't respect what I want for my birthday.

I have always felt that one's birthday is the day you are required to be selfish and do exactly what you want. So that is what I do now. I tell everyone to fuck off and do things exactly what I want.

Vertigo
10-17-2007, 09:30 AM
I ended up posting a blog on myspace - I think I was more feeling like nobody gave a shit about me and how stressed I have been and none of my friends have offered to help or do shit but I go out of my way to do shit for other people all the time. :wtf So, mostly I was just being bitchy. I got home that night and my friend/contractor was like "there's NO WAY this kitchen is going to take two more weeks" and he was right - it looks like we can paint this weekend, and put the office back together and get all the dishes and everything put away and whatnot before the 27th. So my party is still on as of now, and I am super relieved. Oh and once the office is put back together I can get back on doing reviews...

Mark Carras
10-17-2007, 02:44 PM
I can get back on doing reviews...

:bow I love you. :kiss

Vish
10-19-2007, 10:26 AM
i quit celebrating my birthday 10 years ago. then again, i quit celebrating holidays as well. im no fun.

SHUT UP AND DIE
10-19-2007, 05:40 PM
I celebrate Halloween by drinking and watching horror flicks. I do this during the entire month of October.....:evil