Sometimes People really suck

[Vertigo]

so, about a month ago I posted a bulletin on myspace asking "If" I were to throw a New Years Party, who would come and like 15 people said they would. If I didn't get a response, I would have made alternate plans, but I thought if the usual folks showed up, then the stragglers would come along and it would be fun.

So a week ago I figured out I had head lice, and did the treatment, and I have gone completely overboard and obsessive compulsive about cleaning. I've used a new towel every shower, washed everything, coats, bedding, everything in hot water, checked daily and not found anything. But I posted that as well on myspace, just to let everyone know that if they hugged me recently or came to my house recently to be aware if they start itching so they could start treatment early (I think I was infested for about a week before I figured it out and nobody has come forward to me to let me know they also had it).

So now it's 9 pm and nobody is coming. It would have been nice to know before we did everything and bought a bunch of booze. I don't know if I'm more angry or more hurt that people actually think I'm still infested and just don't want to say it/ask me.

Fuckers.

[Mark Carras]

so, about a month ago I posted a bulletin on myspace asking "If" I were to throw a New Years Party, who would come and like 15 people said they would. If I didn't get a response, I would have made alternate plans, but I thought if the usual folks showed up, then the stragglers would come along and it would be fun.

So a week ago I figured out I had head lice, and did the treatment, and I have gone completely overboard and obsessive compulsive about cleaning. I've used a new towel every shower, washed everything, coats, bedding, everything in hot water, checked daily and not found anything. But I posted that as well on myspace, just to let everyone know that if they hugged me recently or came to my house recently to be aware if they start itching so they could start treatment early (I think I was infested for about a week before I figured it out and nobody has come forward to me to let me know they also had it).

So now it's 9 pm and nobody is coming. It would have been nice to know before we did everything and bought a bunch of booze. I don't know if I'm more angry or more hurt that people actually think I'm still infested and just don't want to say it/ask me.

Fuckers.

Yeah, people do indeed suck. You pretty much did exactly what one should do when they get that. Go freaking nuts and go totally "overboard" (no such thing when it comes to those pests) with getting rid of them and making sure they can't come back. So your so called friends were being overly paranoid as well as rude and dishonest. This was the thanks you got for being honest with them. This is why me and Sherri have a very small circle of friends. When we find out people are petty like that we cut them off.

Maybe next year we should find a way to do a little RMM party o some sort. :cheers

[Vertigo]

Yeah, people do indeed suck. You pretty much did exactly what one should do when they get that. Go freaking nuts and go totally "overboard" (no such thing when it comes to those pests) with getting rid of them and making sure they can't come back. So your so called friends were being overly paranoid as well as rude and dishonest. This was the thanks you got for being honest with them. This is why me and Sherri have a very small circle of friends. When we find out people are petty like that we cut them off.

Maybe next year we should find a way to do a little RMM party o some sort. :cheers

We ended up going to see a band I've been wanting to check out, so it worked out alright. Just would have been nice to know before I had 2 hours to decide what to do. I'll see what people say or whatever...

I'm not one to like being "tested" or "test" other people, but I think I'm just going to not call folks for a while and see if any of them step forward.

[SHUT UP AND DIE]

Look on the bright side, at least you've got a stockpile of booze for X number of weeks. :)

[Vertigo]

That is definitely a bright side.

[Vish]

i would have come, had i rsvp'd. i cant stand people that dont follow through with what they say.

[Vertigo]

Yeah, that's what's really annoying. Because since we're like the only ones in our group with our own house that we're not renting and can do whatever we want, people usually really like to come to our house for parties. They're not debaucherous or anything, but just normal nice parties with munchies and booze. So we offer to throw parties on certain holidays, but this one in particular, I kinda wanted to go out, so I was like "IF we have one, do you want to come" and enough people said yes that it made more sense for us to just stay home and throw the party instead of being out driving through all the drunks. And then I didn't know til like 9 pm that nobody was going to come. Just would have been nice to know way before then. Fucking annoying. So I'm not planning around other people anymore.

[MetalGoddess]

The last party we threw at our house had a decent turnout, a super bowl party 2 years ago. The one before that, Halloween 2004, had a meager turnout. We had prepared and bought tons of alcohol and food. I gave up on throwing parties. Same shit, everyone says they'll come then don't show up.

We used to throw parties at our house 3-4 times a year and have anywhere from 50-100 people show up. That's why we never bothered playing clubs. Why move the gear and all that crap when you can invite the audience for free and play for 3 hours? Clubs pay shit, anyway. We had the PA, dj lights, soundproofed room, fog, etc. We set up a donation can for the keg and people always gave something. I don't know why people stopped coming.

I only invite my close friends over for movies and hot tubbing now. (At least until I sell the house and get the divorce.)

Uh, did your friends know about the head lice? Definitely wouldn't want to visit someone's house if I knew that. That is something I don't think I would be admitting on a public forum, either.

[Vertigo]

Well the fact of the matter is I wanted people to know about them because I wanted them to just be aware if they started itching to be diligent and check themselves. I know that it is obviously something that most chickens wouldn't admit, because I don't know where I got it because nobody was honest and came forward to me to tell me they had them.

They're really not as highly contagious as people think, but JUST IN CASE, yes, I did post on myspace to let my friends know that IF they started itching to just check their heads and make sure. So for being honest and up front with my friends because I don't want THEM to have to go through what I've been going through got me shunned, shamed, and rejected.

A few people don't care and have still come around, and not gotten anything, and the husband I sleep next to every night hasn't gotten anything, and my brother in law who lives with us hasn't gotten anything because I have vacuumed and done laundry every day, which I also posted to let people know.

I know that in all honesty I would be a bit leery about going to someone's house who had them, but I wouldn't NOT GO, I'd just be aware of what I was touching and wear a hat or bandanna to protect my hair while I was there instead of telling them I will come see them and then just NOT come see them.

Basically everyone who said they were coming just pussed out and it feels really really bad. I'm not a leper, their faces aren't going to melt off when they come into the same room as me. I went out instead and saw some friends, and even hugged some of them (warning them first of course), and none of them have lice, because I've been treating it, keeping all my clothes and coats washed, and I keep my hair covered in a bandanna when I go out so as to minimize any possible spreading. (FTR my friends who know me or supposedly care about me should also know that I have OCD and have been going super nuts keeping everything clean and that they needn't worry about stepping foot into the house)

I was mostly just hurt that nobody admitted to it, and that I could have made alternate plans and not missed two out of the three bands I wanted to see at the place I eventually ended up going if people had been honest with me on time and told me they weren't coming. (FTR my parties are usually packed)

[Mark Carras]

Yeah, I think what Linda did was the honest thing. If someone judges her because of that than they are not a true friend.

On the lice thing, lice prefer clean hair to dirty hair. So it is not a symbol of being dirty. Also, like Linda pointed out it is not near as contagious as people think. When I worked at Lincoln elementary school there was a classroom that always had lice it seems. I had to clean the room every night and I was always afraid that because of my super long hair that it would be easy for one of them little fuckers (the lice, not the munchkins) to jump on for a ride. In the 7 years I worked there I never had lice once.

My point is that saying it on a public forum shouldn't be a problem.

[MetalGoddess]

Yes, you are right. I would rather know than not. And please, don't think I am judging you by any means.

I had never seen head lice before moving here to Washington state 17 years ago. Must be the climate here. My kids got them within a month of us moving here. I called a nurse, thinking it was fleas from the neighbor's dog. Boy, was I wrong.

I haven't dealt with it for 4 years now, since my youngest kid got out of grade school. It's a big pain in the ass, and I hope I never have to deal with it again.

[SHUT UP AND DIE]

I don't think people intended to "shame" you, Linda. In all honesty, it's not too far of a stretch to imagine people skipping out on going to a house that the owner let EVERYONE know that they had a case of the gallopin' dandruf. I've had lice before, so I know it's definitely not as bad as is made out to be, but on the other hand, I probably would avoid someone who JUST came down with it as well. Though I would've been up front with you about it, rather than just ducked out...anyways, like I said before: the bright side is that you have a stockpile of booze to give to your friends who still come around. Without wanting to sound harsh or insensitive, I think you're taking it a little too personal. :)

[Vertigo]

I don't think people intended to "shame" you, Linda. In all honesty, it's not too far of a stretch to imagine people skipping out on going to a house that the owner let EVERYONE know that they had a case of the gallopin' dandruf. I've had lice before, so I know it's definitely not as bad as is made out to be, but on the other hand, I probably would avoid someone who JUST came down with it as well. Though I would've been up front with you about it, rather than just ducked out...anyways, like I said before: the bright side is that you have a stockpile of booze to give to your friends who still come around. Without wanting to sound harsh or insensitive, I think you're taking it a little too personal. :)

Oh I know what you mean. I'm mostly over it at THIS point, just still talking about it on here... Yeah, sometimes when things like this happen it turns out for the better because you know who's genuine. And I actually just had a couple people over for margaritas so it worked out nicely anyhow. Like you said, plenty of alcohol to share with good friends. I definitely did take it personaly because, well, it was cuz of me that people didn't come lol. But, like I said, it's better this way. everything happens for a reason...